It's funny how technology has transformed the way we communicate, learn or even get inspired.
The simple concept of using a landline seems a bit antiquated these days. I mean... why hold a phone to your ear when you can FaceTime or video chat, and share a convo face-to-face? We can tap into the world's latest headlines or get a behind-the-scenes look at celebrities lives through the lens of Snapchat, Twitter and Instagram.
Lately, social media has been a source of profound revelation for me, too. More often than not, I find myself scrolling upon a powerful quote and sharing it with friends.
Just yesterday, lil sis hit me with an Instagram post that literally left me in awe. She slid in my DMs and sent the link to a 1-minute video post by Jada Pinkett Smith. It shows the actress and film director sitting outdoors, glowing flawlessly in the sun wearing a baseball cap and t-shirt.
Her subject matter? The art of healing. (My words... not hers)
I call it an “art” because it often requires maturity, intention and sometimes creativity to achieve.
The first thing she says is:
"Every person we meet is brokenhearted"
That really resonated with me. Why?... because how often do we sit back and think about another person’s experience?
Even when a person mistreats us — do we take the mature step of considering how their actions may be the result of a painful past?
Jada went on to explain how often times we expect friends or loved ones to heal us or go out of their way to show us love, appreciation or respect. But, sometimes we have to realize that they can’t meet our expectation.... for they too, are broken.
If you are the person who has fallen victim to the painful past of someone you love -- just know: it’s not YOU. They are dealing with a heartbreak that you can not heal. Heck -- they might not even know it exists! So, love them the best you can, and give them the space and time they need to restore themselves.
And -- if you are the person struggling to heal your own brokenness -- be mindful of how your wounds may impact others in your life. Be sure that you aren't penalizing people who have done nothing wrong.
In the words of Mrs. Smith, "do the work to be for yourself, what you demand from others."
Until next time,