The Game of Judgement
Dear sis, There’s nothing worse than finding yourself in a bad situation you never expected to be in. It all happens so quickly... and before you know it, you’re asking yourself: “What have I done?” “What did I get myself into?” “How did it get THIS bad?” I’m not talking about the circumstances someone else caused us to be in... I’m talking about the circumstances where there is no one else to blame, but ourselves.
If we’re being honest, we can agree — we’ve all had moments we aren’t so proud of. It can be embarrassing to admit imperfect relationships, flawed finances or a failing career. But, you know what’s worse?? Feeling like you have to bear it alone... because you’re afraid of being judged. See, I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum, and I think it’s safe to say no one wants Judge Judy as a friend, mom, sister or companion. Many of us want to confide in someone without being met with criticism and various versions of "I told you so". I've learned that although judgment is often unintentional, it only forces our loved ones to withdraw. So many of us make the tough decision to tackle our issues alone, instead of dealing with the extra weight of being under judgment's attack. Nevertheless, I’ve realized I owe it to my friends and family to maintain an honest, yet safe space where vulnerability is easy. Sometimes the people around us are fighting battles we know nothing about. It’s our duty to create opportunities for our loved ones to openly share their highs... but, more importantly their lows, their failures, their insecurities, "silly mistakes" and "irrational decisions". We can only hope the love is reciprocated when it’s our turn to play the game of judgement. XOXO, Lo